Skin rashes that can signify your girlfriend or boyfriend has cheated

People that cheat on their girlfriend, partner or boyfriend?

It is estimated that roughly 30% to 60% of all married individuals will engage in infidelity at some point during their marriage (see Buss & Shackelford for review of this research on Americans). If you consider that close to half of all of all marriages ending in divorce, then these numbers are probably on the conservative side as people are more likely to stray as relationships fall apart.

You need to verbally communicate with your partner!

Don’t be too quick to judge your partner; some diseases contracted during sex encounters may stay hidden, with no symptoms for years. It means that your partner may have already contracted a disease before meeting you and due to some unforeseen reason, the disease has been reactivated, because of stress on the immunesystem. Your partner might have known of the disease when he/she was younger, so it is important to have an open dialogue with your partner.

STD Triage™ users are anonymous. 75% of queries sent in are of hair problems or rashes that have suddenly appeared, 25% of queries are of probable STDs, that the user needs to rule out with further, tests and diagnosing at the doctors office. Sometimes we receive cases about their partner. Below you can read some questions that we have received over a four year period.


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The following images courtesy of First Derm skin guide


Sexual intercourse Clinical manifestations of syphilis include the ulceration of the uro-genital tract

Online Dermatologist question
I am a 20 years old male. It doesn’t hurt it almost seems like a pimple. A condom broke last week while having sex and I’m worried

Received 16th June 2016 at 7:05 pm
Answered 17th June 2016 at 6:00 pm

Dermatologist answer
Based on the information and images submitted, this is possibly SYPHILIS: a sexually transmitted infection caused by a bacteria known as Treponema pallidum. The first sign of infection is usually a firm, painless ulcer or sore known as a chancre, which usually appears at the point of infection in the genital area. The infection can be treated with high doses of penicillin (antibiotics). I recommend that you see a dermatologist or go to an STD clinic as soon as possible. Testing is necessary to confirm the assessment.

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Herpes simplex (Herpes simplex virus 1, 2)

Skin and mucosal contact

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I am a 27 year old male. I have had this rash for 2 months now. It is sore, irritated and painful. I have been in a stable relationship for 5 years. I have been tested for Gonorrhea, Chlamydia and HIV, the results were negative. I went to my family doctor and they did not have an answer to my rash. Please help!

Received 5th February 2013 at 8:22 pm
Answered 5th February 2013 at 11:45 pm

Online Dermatologist answer
It may be herpes genitalis infection, which is triggered by the Herpes simplex virus. The virus can be latent in the body for years and can recur. Certain triggers can cause the herpes virus to travel back through the nerve to the surface of the skin, otherwise known as a recurrence. Recurrences can and do happen, even for people who have normal immune systems. Triggers are physical and emotional stress, infection, tissue damage, changes in the immune system and fatigue. It can be treated with oral antiviral medicines. I recommend you contact a dermatologist or an STD clinic for testing with PCR, further treatment and information.

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Molluscum contagiosum

Skin contact

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My husband is 55 years old and has molluscum contagiosum in his pubic hair and on his penis. He is being treated by a local dermatologist. He told me that he probably got if from using a dirty towel from a health club at the hotel he stayed in Barcelona. I have been reading online and it says the chances of him getting it from a dirty towel in the pubic area is slim to none. They are saying direct skin to skin contact. What do you think? P.S. Those photos are not of him. But the app would not let me send a question without a photo. He is being treated. I just would like to pay you for the answer to my question.

Received 28th August 2015 at 3:12 am
Answered 28th August 2015 at 9:41 am

Online Dermatologist answer
Thank you for submitting your question. The lesions in the pictures are undeniably Molluscum Contagiosum. Since the pictures are not from the patient you are asking about, that doesn’t necessarily mean that his current lesions are Mollucums. That issue must be confirmed by a physician in person if or when the patient voluntarily pays him/her a visit, since other diagnostic options such as Enlarged Sebaceous Glands could be taken into consideration. If it were Molluscums, from a statistik point of view, contagion is more likely by skin to skin contact than by for example towels. Unfortunately we can’t make an appropriate evaluation without having more information about the circumstances surrounding this specific case and most of all without having direct contact with the concerned patient on a voluntary basis.

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HPV (Human Papillomavirus) – genital warts

Skin and mucosal contact

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I am 34 years old female. This is a recurring problem, thought it was hemorrhoids; it is at the bottom of my abdomen, inside, down towards my anus. It hurts and I have difficulty going to the toilet and even wear underwear. It is painful like stinging cuts. I work out a lot and it might have to do with my sweaty pants rubbing against my underwear? I do not know if there is a wound that has become like this? What do you think?

Received 11th June 2014 at 7:12 am
Answered 11th June 2014 at 8:41 pm

Online Dermatologist answer
Thanks for your query. This is possibly condyloma, a sexually transmitted disease caused by the Human Papillomavirus (HPV). Condylomas can appear on the skin in any part of the genital area. The warts can vary in size but are usually flesh-colored and cauliflower-like on the surface. To avoid further spread of the virus, condom use is recommended. They can be treated in many ways. A common technique is to have them removed by freezing them with liquid nitrogen. I recommend you to see a dermatologist or visit a STD-clinic to confirm the assessment and get further treatment.


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Crab louse, colloquially known as “crabs” or “pubic lice”

Skin contact

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Originally diagnosed as shingles but no response to acyclovir and spreading across back of neck into scalp. About a month duration. No known food or drug allergies. No exposure to new products . Otherwise healthy 59 year old female. Slightly itchy red bumps. No fever. Concurrent cold symptoms like nasal congestion.

Received 21st March 2016 at 2:05 pm
Answered 21st March 2016 at 11:49 pm

Online Dermatologist answer
Hi and thank you for submitting your case. Based on the information and the images submitted, the option of LICE has to be ruled out; it is more frequent than what’s commonly thought. You will have to see your family doctor in order to have the assessment confirmed. If it is confirmed, the treatment of choice is normally head washes with Permethrin.


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Scabies (Sarcoptes scabiei)

Skin contact

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I have a couple red spots on my hips and above my groin area then a couple similar ones popped up on my penis about 3-4 weeks ago. I thought they’d go away, but they haven’t. I looked up herpes and genital warts, but neither sounds like what I have because they aren’t painful. The spots itch every once in awhile and when it is itched, the spots usually look more prominent. Sometimes it looks like it’s clearing up and then a day or two later the spots are back in the same exact areas and appear vividly. It doesn’t appear to be spreading to other parts of my crotch area. I have used hydrocortisone to ease the itching, permethrin cream which was for the bumps on my hips, clobetasol propionate and acne medication but nothing has made it permanently disappear. What else should I try?

Received 21st March 2016 at 8:12 am
Answered 21st March 2016 at 10:31 am

Online Dermatologist answer
Based on the information and images submitted, this is possibly SCABIES. Scabies are inflammatory lesions caused by a mite that digs burrows in the skin. This parasite is transmitted through direct physical contact with another person with scabies. The lesions cause itching which can be severe. The itch is more common during the evening/night. These lesions do not always itch however. Before treating the lesions, it is of utmost importance to confirm the assessment with a dermatologist in person. In addition, these lesions could be FOLLICULITIS (infection of the hair follicle) or an STD. You should see a dermatologist as soon as possible for evaluation, testing and treatment.

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Rashes that are sometimes confused as an STD/ STI


Fordyce Spots (sebaceous (oil) glands

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I am a 24 year old male. Odd lesion on glans of penis. Painless and no itch, not noticeable when flaccid at all. Only noticeable when erect and half erect. Can you advise me what this is? Wart?

Received 15th July 2015 at 8:09 am
Answered 16th July 2016 at 3:36 pm

Online Dermatologist answer
Based on the information and images provided, these spots are most likely FORDYCE SPOTS: sebaceous (oil) glands that are present in most individuals. They appear as small, painless, raised, white bumps and can appear on the scrotum and shaft of the penis, as well as the inner mucosa of the lips on the face. These spots are a normal anatomic occurrence.

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I am a 27 years old male. I have small red sores on the head of my penis. They showed up about two weeks ago. went away for a couple of days and come back. Sometimes they will dry up and have flaky skin on them. There is no pain accompanied with these.

Received 15th July 2016 at 10:05 pm
Answered 16th July 2016 at 6:00 pm

Online Dermatologist answer
Thank you for sending your case. Based on the information and images, this is possibly BALANITIS. Balanitis is an inflammation of the foreskin and/or glans of the penis (the “head”). This condition is very common and not contagious. Treatment with topical steroids (eg hydrocortisone 1%, over-the-counter) twice daily for 1 week, then once daily for 1 week, then once every 2 days for 2 weeks is recommended. To avoid recurrences, use moisturizing cream several times daily. Also avoid exaggerated hygiene, which dries out skin. Use mild soap or only luke warm water when washing. During sex or masturbation, apply lubricant to avoid friction. If it doesn’t improve within a couple of weeks, I recommend that you see a dermatologist in person for a closer examination and to exclude other causes.


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I am a 24 years old male. I have a rash above my genitals it seems to be increasing, reaching the lower part of penis, not sure what it is. It’s not due to shaving, as I only did that now to make it more visible to show. In terms of medication I’m currently on is acitretin (25 mg) daily & dovobet, both for psoriasis.

Received 1st July 2015 at 10:05 am
Answered 1st July 2015 at 6:00 pm

Online Dermatologist answer
Thank you for sending your case. Based on the information and images, this is possibly FOLLICULITIS. Folliculitis is a very common skin condition. It is caused by an inflammation of the hair roots. Disruption of the skin can cause small sores in the skin allowing bacteria and other irritants to enter and inflame the hair follicles. It can be both infectious or noninfectious. I would recommend applying a topical steroid cream (eg hydrocortisone 1% sold over-the-counter) twice daily for a week to start with, then once daily for another week, then every other day for two weeks. Also, keep the area clean with antibacterial soaps or solutions (e.g. Chlorhexidine). Also, avoid shaving until the lesions have cleared. If it does not improve within a few weeks, see a dermatologist in person.


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Enlarged sebaceous glands

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I am a 34 year old male. Bumps on the base of my penis and shaft. No itching or pain experienced. No redness or rupture of any bumps. I noticed them around 6 months ago and really concerned I might have an STD. I have given blood and been tested for STDs all tests came back negative. The doctor did not inspect the bumps though. I have not had unprotected sex the last 6 months.

Received 15th July 2016 at 1:53 am
Answered 15th July 2016 at 11:02 am

Dermatologist answer
Based on the pictures and the information sent in, these are ENLARGED SEBACEOUS GLANDS, quite common and completely normal. Their function is to lubricate. They don´t require any treatment. Neither are they contagious or have any relation whatsoever to sexually transmitted diseases.

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Pearly Penile Papules

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I am a 39 year old male. At the base of the head of the penis, there are little white heads (hair like). Have had this for years. No pain or itching, but visually not good. It’s on both sides and after constant scrubbing nothing happens.

Received 21st June 2015 at 4:53 pm
Answered 21st June 2015 at 6:42 pm

Online Dermatologist answer
Based on the information and images submitted, Possibly Pearly Penile Papules that are small dome-shaped to thread-like skin-coloured bumps they are typically located on the sulcus or corona of the glans penis. The papules are commonly arranged all the way around the head of the penis in one or several rows. Penile papules are a normal anatomic variant and no treatment is needed. Av cosmetic reason can be treat by electrosurgery or laser.

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I am a 29 years old male. A couple of months ago I started using a “cleansing” pill which makes you poop often and a lot. I started noticing extra “skin” in the anal area and since then it has been progressively getting worse. I sometimes see blood in the bowel movements and when I wipe so these things make me think it’s “hemorrhoid piles”. They aren’t painful, but one of the small bumps itch. Would like to know what these are and what I should do?

Received 1st December 2014 at 10:05 am
Answered 2nd December 2014 at 8:00 am

Online Dermatologist answer
Thank you for sending your case. Based on the information and images, this is possibly a HEMORRHOID. Hemorrhoids are enlarged and sometimes inflamed blood vessels in the anal region. These can lead to bleeding (bright red), especially after wiping, itchiness and/or fecal incontinence. In more advanced cases, the blood flow in these vessels can stop (thrombosis) causing swelling and pain. In mild cases, a barrier cream containing zinc oxide is recommended. If it itches, a mild topical steroid cream (eg hydrocortisone 1%, over-the-counter) can be helpful. Several over-the counter products are available including vasoconstrictors (eg Preparation H), hemorrhoidal preparations with local anesthetics and combinations. Non-steroidal anti-inflammatory drugs such as ibuprofen, acetaminophen or aspirin taken orally can also be helpful. If symptoms don’t improve, see your physician. In advanced cases, surgery (rubber band ligation, sclerotherapy, cauterization, excision, etc) may be required.

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Skin tags (acrochordon)

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I am a 40 years old woman. I have been experiencing discomfort over the last week when I took a closer look noticed that there was a growth on my minor labia.

Received 1st December 2014 at 10:09 am
Answered 2nd December 2014 at 8:00 am

Online Dermatologist answer
From information and images, it is possibly SKIN TAG (ACROCHORDON), a benign outgrowth of the skin which can appear anywhere on the body (e.g. neck, armpits, trunk or the genital area). In the case of vaginal skin tags, the most likely time for these to appear is often after pregnancy but also due to to hormonal changes. They can sometimes become irritated due to friction. Treatment is not necessary but can be done by a dermatologist through cauterization (burning), cryosurgery (freezing) or excision (minor surgery). If it grows, changes or you continue with discomfort.

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I am a 53 years old male. The lesions are in the right and left groin, more severe in the right groin (the first picture attached). There are also on the scrotum and around the base of the penis (see second picture) as well as above the pubic area where there is a big fold of skin due to reparation surgery. The lesions appeared on the 23rd of October in the right groin and they were much smaller than now and pink. On the 29th they appeared in the left groin, and above the pubic area and on the scrotum and around the penis base after applying calendula cream from Holland &Barrett.. I don’t know if there was any connection but they got worse. Then Fucicort was applied and the lesions look like this today. I would like to know what it is, if it is an allergy to the calendula cream or it is a fungal infection or anything else. I weigh 138 kg and have lots of fat and folds of skin on the thighs and on my belly.

Received 17th September 2015 at 12:01 pm
Answered 17th September 2015 at 4:07 pm

Online Dermatologist answer
Thank you for sending your case. Based on the information and images, this is possibly INTERTRIGO. Intertrigo presents as a red, painful rash (dermatitis) associated with multiple causes such as bacteria or fungi. It usually occurs in skin folds, or where skin is in contact with other parts of the skin (e.g. groins, inner thighs, genitalia, under the breasts). Intertrigo in the groins or genital area is commonly known as “jock itch”. Intertrigo can be exacerbated by excessive chafing or moist conditions. Treatment involves keeping the area dry and application of an antifungal cream (2% miconazole nitrate) combined with a mild steroid cream (1% hydrocortisone). These products are sold over-the-counter. Apply twice daily for a week to start with, then once daily for another week, then every other day for two weeks. If the rash persists, gets worse, or relapses, you should see a dermatologist in person.


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I am 49 years old male It’s on my private part area and it itch and hurts when I scratch a lot.

Received 17th October 2015 at 7:01 pm
Answered 17th October 2015 at 11:07 pm

Online Dermatologist answer
Based on the information and images submitted, this is possibly PSORIASIS, a chronic non-contagious inflammatory disease of the skin which can present at any age. Red patches usually with white scales are seen on different skin areas, sometimes like in your case on the scalp and in the genital area. Nevertheless, it can appear anywhere on the skin. A variable amount of itching can be experienced or none at all. Sometimes there are more family members with the condition. I recommend that you see a dermatologist or your family physician in order to obtain prescriptions. If there is waiting time to get an appointment you may apply mild steroid cream such as 1% Hydrocortisone cream (available over-the-counter without a prescription) twice daily during the first week, then once every day during a couple of weeks and later every other day.

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I am a 20 years old female. First it started off with itching and burning between my thighs and the genital area and then I was discharging a lot like foaming white discharge and it turn green with a foul smell . I changed my soap and started using an antibacterial soap from dove. And then when I was in the shower scrubbing my vagina, it started burning, I was scrubbing it too hard and it was red and inflamed and bleeding! I don’t know if I was scrubbing to hard or! Can you please tell me what I have? I am sexually active!

Received 1st April 2015 at 11:55 am
Answered 2nd April 2015 at 4:00 am

Online Dermatologist answer
Based on the information and images submitted, this is possibly VAGINITIS. Vaginal thrush is a fungal infection caused by overgrowth of the Candida species yeast. This condition is very common in young women and symptoms include itching, soreness and irritation in and around the vagina. It also causes vaginal discharge, which is odorless and often (but not always) white and thick like cottage cheese. Sexual intercourse can be painful or cause discomfort. Recommended treatment includes intravaginal creams or suppositories which are sold over-the-counter and are effective in most cases. If it doesn’t improve, see your gynecologist, dermatologist or visit a STD clinic for testing to confirm vaginitis and/or rule out other diagnoses. Oral antifungal medication might be needed.

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I am 28 years old male. Not itchy or painful. Not raised and doesn’t feel different from skin around it. I can’t begin to guess how long it’s been there but I guess 12-24 months. I tried Tea Tree OIL which seems to have made it worse. Foreskin is very dark in comparison to rest of body. The close surrounding skin to pink patch is especially darker. I’ve had a history of Guttate Psoriasis which was around 7 or 8 years ago. Administered light treatment and it eliminated it. I’ve also had Cholonergic Urticaria which lasted around 3 months. eventually treated and cleared by 1-1.5 months of 3 powerful antihistamines. This was 10 months ago.

Received 4th May 2015 at 7:11 pm
Answered 5th May 2015 at 11:17 am

Online Dermatologist answer
Thank you for sending your case. Based on the information and images, this is possibly VITILIGO: Vitiligo is an autoimmune disorder in which the immune systems affects your own melanocytes (the skin’s pigment-producing cells) “turning them off”. Other diagnoses could be considered such as postinflammatory depigmentation or PITYRIASIS ALBA, which leaves white patches in the skin sometimes even after having had a very mild case of dermatitis in the area. If you or your family members have had a history of autoimmune diseases, for example thyroid disorders, a visit to your physician may be recommended. Blood tests can be carried out to check your general health. Vitiligo can unfortunately not be cured, but several treatments can be used to try to restore the lost pigmentation in your skin. If the patch grows or new patches appear in other areas, see a dermatologist in person to confirm or rule out the assessment.

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Lichen sclerosus et atrophicus

Online Dermatologist question
I am a 32 year old male. My foreskin is red and white in slices.

Received 15th September 2015 at 11:11 pm
Answered 16th September 2015 at 6 :12 am

Online Dermatologist answer
Thank you for sending your case. Based on the information and images of your penis, this is possibly a LICHEN SCLEROSUS ET ATROPHICUS. An inflammatory condition of unknown origin that sometimes can be uncomfortable but not dangerous. Has nothing to do with a Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STD), it is a skin condition that also can engage other parts of the body surface. First choice treatment is strong cortisone creams that you should apply twice daily during a period of time and then withdraw the intensity of the applications progressively. The thing is that you can not get these creams over-the-counter. You will need to see a physician in order to have the assessment confirmed and the cream prescribed.


Lichen planus

Online Dermatologist question
I am a 51 year old male. I have had unprotected sex. I had a yeast infection about 3 weeks ago. I got treatment for that. It cleared. Right after that my perineal area started itching and became raw feeling. That ended but I have this raw almost but not quite cracked area that won’t go away. I don’t know what it is.

Received 11th April 2016 at 7:11 am
Answered 11th April 2015 at 11:17 pm

Online Dermatologist answer
Thank you for sending your case. Based on the information and images, this is possibly LICHEN PLANUS: a chronic inflammatory condition of the skin, which can affect a number of body parts. Common locations are the underside of the forearms and the inside of the cheeks, but it can also affect both men and women in the genital area. In men, it can appear on the foreskin and/or the head of the penis and around the anus. In women, the lesions can appear around the vagina or anus. The lesions are commonly slightly raised and redish-violet in color. Itching is not uncommon. Trauma in the area can sometimes cause more lesions to appear so it is important to avoid scratching. Lichen planus can be treated with topical steroid creams (eg hydrocortisone 1%, over-the-counter), but may need a stronger steroid cream that requires a prescription. Moisturizing cream can also be applied. If it doesn’t improve, visit a STD clinic or see a dermatologist.

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Unsolicited Dick Pics & Sexual Harassment

We suspect offenders who send dick pics have bad posture... call it a hunch. 

We suspect offenders who send dick pics have bad posture... call it a hunch. 

December 22, 2016 - SWEDEN - In a recent article written by Irena Pozar in Veckorevyn, a Swedish magazine comparable to Seventeen, Pozar interviews star feminist lawyer Elizabeth Massi Fritz about the dangers revolving around “dick pics”. Fritz discusses this phenomenon, where men send unsolicited pictures of their genitalia to women via text and online, as a form of sexual harassment and emphasizes the importance of immediately reporting dick pics to the police.

The perpetrator was once a naked man clothed in a long trench coat, preying on women as he opened his trench coat and revealed his genitals; this is coined as "flashing" or exhibitionism. Indecent exposure laws in most states declare the act of displaying one's genitals in public a crime, as offenders seek sexual gratification. The modern day phenomena is to use smartphone cameras and send unsolicited dick pics.

“Pictures and verbal abuse are not new phenomenons; they have been around for many years,” Fritz states during the interview. “However, based on my experience, I can see that the climate surrounding the girls and women violated online has become more threatening and common. The Internet has made it possible for perpetrators to reach out easily while concealing their identities as they send anonymous images. This is unacceptable.”

Many young girls and women agree that receiving unsolicited dick pics is a disturbing form of sexual harassment. Perpetrators can easily circulate pictures of their genitalia through numerous outlets, ranging from dating platforms like Tinder to more unconventional avenues such as Apple’s AirDrop function and sending pictures of their penis to women nearby.

The article cites Fritz’s suggestions on the protocol women should take after receiving an unsolicited dick pic. “Save images by taking screenshots and save any other evidence. It’s crucial to establish that right - you have been a victim of crime,” Fritz emphasizes. “There usually exists a user profile or other digital footprints that can reveal who the perpetrator is. Report to the police and remember that you have to right to request a counsel paid by the state; this will help you throughout the legal process.”

According to the article, unsolicited dick pics are always a form of sexual harassment; however, perpetrators may take it to the next level and commit more heinous sexual acts. “There may be instances where they commit sexual acts via a recording or image, and then it can be a question of other crimes, such as child rape, if the victim is younger than 15 years of age,” Fritz explains. “Therefore, it is very important to save all evidence and explain the events carefully to the investigating police.”

A majority of women can attest that unsolicited dick pics are an infringement on their personal security. Regardless, society often normalizes the circulation of dick pics as a phenomenon that men often engage in because it is so common. But sending dick pics is a form of sexual assault when women are blindsided and do not consent to receiving them.

In the article, Fritz closes her interview with a reminder to victims. “Do not forget that you are not alone in receiving these pictures, and it’s never your fault - it is always the perpetrator's fault and the perpetrator must take responsibility for his actions,” Fritz explains. “If a perpetrator is convicted because he sent dick pics, he is subject to a prison sentence as well as other charges.”

To spread word of the harmful effects accompanying dick pics, Fritz has launched a movement/campaign on social media to educate dick pic victims and perpetrators. The hashtag #stoppasnopparna, which translates to #stopthedicks, is the voice of the online movement.

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Written by Caroline Lee, Blog Contributor

Smegma: The Body’s Natural Cheese

A block of cheese made from smegma! Just kidding, it's just cheese.

A block of cheese made from smegma! Just kidding, it's just cheese.

September 10, 2015 - If you have played Cards Against Humanity then you probably have seen the word smegma. A quick urban dictionary search during gameplay reveals that smegma is, “a foul cheese like buildup that comes from not washing or properly maintaining equipment”. It foulness makes it a perfect play for Cards Against Humanity, but what really is smegma?

Smegma is the combination of skin cells, oils, and moisture that collects around the foreskin and around the clitoris and labia areas. While found on both men and women, smegma is most notably problematic for uncircumcised men. It is commonly called the body’s natural cheese because the appearance of built up smegma tends to resemble the horderve. The key to getting rid of smegma is quite simple actually: wash well.

Washing well removes dead skin and smegma from your genitalia. Warm water and soap now and again will do the trick. Guys with foreskin: make sure to wash well under the foreskin to remove all hidden buildup.

If after you clean you still have issues, you should consider consulting a doctor as you may have an infection or other serious condition.

If you stay on top of your hygiene, you will be able to stay clear of smegma and the only time you will have to think about it is during your next Cards Against Humanity game.

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Why Do Penis’s Smell Bad?

If you visit the beach in the summertime you’re bound to see some hunks styled in shorts and speedos, and a few babes rocking booty shorts and bikinis. If you’re in America, you probably won’t see people naked. That is because we as a society believe that our private parts should be kept private. This may be a relief for some parents, but it is actually one of the largest contributors to penis smell.

Heat and moisture that ensues under your garments combined with your bodies natural skin bacteria can quickly generate an odor. This process is amplified by the sweat glands in the male groin area causing a noticeable “penis smell”. If this is the case for you or someone you know, first: don’t worry! Odor is a perfectly normal part of the human body and can easily be controlled. Here are some hygiene tips to help with penis smell:


Wash well.

I can’t stress this enough. Washing well in the shower is the first step to fighting penis odor. Make sure to wash from your body to the tip, including your pubic hair. If you are uncircumcised, make sure to wash under the foreskin.

Dry Off.

Make sure to give your body enough time to dry before throwing on clothes. By doing this, you can reduce the moisture and thus reduce odor.


Cut Pubic Hair.

Pubic hair is a breeding ground for bacteria and sweat. Trimming and washing your public hair will help prevent odor.


Wear Breathable Clothes.

Make sure to wear proper clothes and materials such as cotton underwear. If you are performing physical activity, then make sure your clothing matches the activity level. No pants on beach days and no thermal pants in the summertime.


If after implementing these few tips you still notice a penis smell, consider consulting a doctor about the issue. Sometimes odor in your groin area is linked to STIs, infections, or even STDs.

Remember that it is normal to have some sort of penis smell! Maintaining basic hygiene will help control the odors that our bodies are so naturally inclined to secrete. If you continue having issues, consider having a discussion with your doctor. Everyone just wants the best for your penis. 

Pubic Hair: Shaving vs. Shaving for Men and Women

Not a fan of the “au naturel” look?  Well, there are quite a few options when it comes to grooming your genitalia. Both men and women are regularly removing hair in their under regions, and an astounding 87 percent of American women remove their pubic hair.

What are the best ways and what are the safest practices? In short, it comes down to personal preference, but there are some things to consider when it comes to taming your mane.

Precautions and Risks

  • If you are ever unsure or worried you might have an STI then consult a medical professional - an STD clinic, GP, dermatologist or gynecologist are all great places to start.

  • Both Waxing and Shaving increase your risk for skin infections.

  • Removing hair using both of these methods create small open lesions in the epidermis for bacteria to enter.

  • Ingrown hairs are common for both methods of hair removal.

  • Always be sure to wash the treated area with a very mild antibacterial soap after hair removal.

  • A cold towel can help with pore minimization or any irritation caused by hair follicle removal.

  • Avoid lotions and gels after hair removal, and make sure the area is clean and dry



Shaving is the most common method of hair removal. Shaving is also usually less expensive than waxing, however you do have to shave more often than waxing.


Tips for a good shave:

  • Make sure you’ve showered and cleaned the area you will be trimming

  • Shave in the direction that the hair is growing, this will minimize the risk for ingrown hairs

  • Use a disposable razor instead of using the same blade over and over, as some bacteria can grow on the same razor in the warm bathroom.

  • Shaving gel or cream can help with a clean shave. With that said, make sure you aren’t allergic or sensitive the the ingredients in your gel or cream.

  • Don’t share razors, they can transfer bacteria and cause infection.




Waxing is another alternative to shaving, however there are still risks for ingrown hairs and infections.  There is also a pain associated with waxing, but the good news is that more you do it the less it hurts and the hair takes longer to grow back since the entire hair follicle.  DIY Waxing can cost effective, but might be messy and awkward.  When in doubt, go to a trusted waxing technician (esthetician) to do the job, but make sure the salon is clean and follows hygiene codes. They can also help you decide how much to take off and what style you want.


Tips for Waxing

  • Make sure you’ve showered and cleaned the area you will be waxing

  • Dead skin and dirt can clog pores, causing a bumpy, red rash, so you’ll want to exfoliate the day before you’re going to wax

  • Your hair should be about one-quarter inch long, so you can pull out the roots

  • Make sure you only use fresh wax

  • A new applicator (wooden stick) should be used each time you put wax on the body

  • Disposable gloves should be worn for protection

  • If your skin is sensitive be sure to use a hypoallergenic and unscented wax

  • To reduce redness apply a chilled towel to the waxed area or apply a facial toner that contains chamomile



Trimming is another option that some males and females prefer.  The risk for ingrown hairs or infections decrease because you are not completely removing the hair follicle, and you generally cut yourself less, thereby reducing the entry of bacteria. But of course with this method your hair will be longer than shaving and waxing.  The best tools for grooming your nether parts are usually electric clippers or scissors.


Tips for Trimming

  • Make sure you've showered and cleaned the area you will be trimming

  • Be sure the tools you are using to trim are sanitary and cleaned after each use

  • Trim you hair when it’s dry (remember trim while dry and shave when wet)

  • Use a clipper guard if you are using an electric clipper

  • Proceed with caution in the genital region


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Top 5 Best Dating Apps That You’ve Never Heard Of

The first time I heard about Coffee Meets Bagel was from my roommate who was using it to find a more serious relationship. Coffee Meets Bagel offers a unique experience that focuses on compatibility. To do so, they match you with one other user (bagel) per day. This quality over quantity approach provides the user with a more intimate meeting experience. They market themselves as the only dating app women love, but my male roommate seems to enjoy the intimacy just as much.


Healthvana is not necessarily a dating app, but more of a dating app accessory. Healthvana helps users find highly rated STD and STI screening/testing clinics in their area. So what does this have to do with dating apps? After getting screened, you can get your results sent straight to the app on your phone. This is great, especially when the person you just met on some random dating app wants to know if you’ve been checked and are good to go.


Want to meet people you probably have already met? Happn connects you with the people you have crossed paths with and who are directly around you. The unique feature of this dating app is that it tells you how often, if ever, you and the other person have been in the same place. It’s a good way to start a conversation with that intriguing person you see every morning on the bus.



Are you Down? Down lets you know if the person you matched with is interested in dating or if they just want to get down. It gets rid of those awkward moments of having to ask questions and gets right down to business (pun intended). This app is perfect for the lazy Tinderer or Grindrer who know exactly what they want out of a dating app.


Pure is the Uber of dates. You only match with people who are close by and are willing to go out at that very instant. The app focuses on spontaneity that drives the on-demand services market. So for you more spontaneous, adventurous folk, try Pure and within minutes you can be sitting at a table sipping a latte with the person of your dreams.

Top 4 Innovators in Sexual Health

Cindy Gallop made a splash in 2009 in which she spoke at TED about how hardcore porn has directly affected her life. She goes on to explain that porn creates unrealistic expectations of both men and women in sexual relationships. She also points out that pornography has a way of acting as sexual education tool for children in schools that teach abstinence only. In response to this cultural phenomenon she created MakeLoveNotPorn a website dedicated to initiating a conversation about sex and healthy sexual relationships. This site is a platform for both men and women to engage in a meaningful conversation about sexual relationships outside of porn.

Wise Guyz is a program that began when the founders realized that most sexual health education was geared toward women and that although teen pregnancies were declining, domestic violence, STIs, and homophobia were on the rise. They realized that most boys were seeing troubling images in the media of what it meant to be a man. This is why Wise Guyz was founded, to combat these problematic messages and educate young men on issues such as human rights, sexual health, gender, and positive relationships.

Ovatemp helps women regain control of their reproductive health through the Fertility Awareness Method (FAM). This method involves women tracking their cycles allowing them to either achieve or avoid pregnancy naturally. The Ovatemp app syncs to a Bluetooth thermometer to track the users temperature and combined with elements of traditional charting can pinpoint on which days women are ovulating. Their product is more than just a charting app. It has a support community and gives advice on how to get your reproductive health into ideal shape helping women to be empowered in their reproductive health. 

Callisto is changing the way that sexual assault is reported on college campuses.  According to their website one in five women will be sexually assaulted in college, and many men are as well. Yet, less than 10% of those assaulted report it to the college or police. They have created a third-party sexual assault reporting system designed to provide a safe and confidential reporting environment. Their system has a three-step process that allows the user to control their report every step of the way. Callisto empowers survivors to have control in a situation where there is seemingly none.


Sex Ed That Goes Beyond Sex

The first time I was introduced to sexual education was back in elementary school. Our teacher, Ms. Isabel, briefly murmured at the end of class that at the end of the week all sixth grade students would be watching a video on “changes in our bodies”. This interesting and slightly unnerving description of the video was the talk of the town -- or at least of the sixth grade. Our attentiveness was gone with the mention of the concept of sex and the only learning our class did that week was finding out who’s parents weren’t going to let their kids watch.

My mom had always been very open with me about sexual health and health in general since she worked in the medical field. Every time I had what we called, “a body question”, her dusty college anatomy book quickly came out. Flipping through the pictures and reading scientific explanations was my foundation for sexual education. So of course, with no hesitation, she allowed me to watch “the movie”.


It was finally Friday. As class came to an end, the girls and boys were separated into their own rooms. In the boy’s room, a teacher that I had never met before stood in front of the class. He was going to be holding the discussion. Since Ms. Isabel was a woman, I’m assuming she ended up with the girls. Regardless, a majority of our class didn’t know the man who was about to talk to us about manhood.

The class started off with the movie. After the conclusion of the 1970’s film, there was a brief open discussion. Some of my peers spoke freely, asking questions and expressing interest. I, however, did not. When there were no more questions left we were sent off with a party-favor-like goodie bag filled with deodorant, combs, and a few other toiletry items. To this day I am convinced that in some way that brown paper bag was my official certificate into manhood. That was it; I was now a certified man. We were even inducted by the wise elders.


This hour-long fiasco resulted in not much more than the next week’s rumors of what had been said in the other sex’s class and who asked what questions.

My next run-in with sex ed was in high school when all sophomores were forced to take a class called Health. Health class was enjoyable because it focused on a wide variety of topics. The teacher, Ms. Whaley, covered healthy eating, proper exercise, and we even had a day of meditation. And then there was our sexual health unit. Now, Ms. Whaley was very blunt with the class. She knew that the STDs and STIs we were learning about were sensitive topics, so she made it a point to make the sensitivity clear and let us know that we can always talk to her one-on-one. I think this really helped some quieter students get questions answered.

But again, in a similar fashion as in sixth grade, I felt like the mechanics of sex, the importance of protection, and the harm of STDs were just thrown at us. It was purely physical. We never discussed concepts like emotional cues, the importance of gender equality in relationships, and homosexuality. With such a heteronormative syllabus, I cannot imagine how out of place a young LGBTQ+ member would have felt. Reflecting on my own experiences of school taught sexual education, I realized that there must be a better way.

I came across a medium article written about a school in Canada called Georges P. Vanier Junior High School that truly teaches sexual education differently. WiseGuyz, a nonprofit based in Calgary, recently set out to reshape the way youth, especially young males, learn sex ed. By covering broader categories like the over sexualized representation of women in the media and the social concept of masculinity, these WiseGuyz are trying to tackle the problem with sex ed head on.



Students covered modules on human rights, gender, sexual health, and healthy relationships in general. Within these categories, students say topics can range from sexual violence to consent, and from LGBTQ+ relationships to homophobia. The topics are diverse and cover social ground that normal sexual education steers away from.

With such a diverse syllabus comes a lot of learning. Their hope with the program is to grow awareness for young males so they can make more educated decisions. The Calgary Sexual Health Centre claims that many cases of STD’s and STI’s happen to young boys who are not informed well enough to know to use protection during sex. The WiseGuyz know that the solution to a healthier, more sexually conscious society is information and education, and the results of the program seem to agree.

The United States also has to start making more of an effort to reshape their sexual education programs and move beyond the videos of "How to Put a Condom on a Banana" if they want to improve sexual health. If programs like WiseGuyz continue to prove themselves successful, then it’s only a matter of time before everyone else finally understands the importance of the social implications of sexual education and decides to follow suit.


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